Tsis ntev lossis tom qab, cov niam txiv yuav tsum cuam tshuam nrog kev siab hlob ntawm menyuam. Feem ntau, cov xeeb ceem no nthuav qhia nws tus kheej hauv ib tug menyuam yaus hnub nyoog li ntawm peb mus rau plaub xyoos. Tsis tas yuav ua rau cov neeg phem thiab ntshai, qhov tseeb, qhov no yog qhov xwm txheej ib txwm muaj thiab kev loj hlob ntawm tus menyuam.
Txog thaum tus menyuam yaus pib paub txog lub tswvyim ntawm cov khoom ntiag tug (2-4 xyoos), nws tau muab lub ntiaj teb cais mus rau "kuv li" - "neeg txawv tebchaws". Tom qab 2-3 xyoo, tus menyuam yuav dhau mus ua qhov kev xav no, lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb ntawm niam txiv lub sijhawm tam sim no tsis yog kom tsis muaj teeb meem.
Yog tias koj coj tus cwj pwm tsis zoo rau kev ua menyuam yaus kev ntshaw, ces koj tuaj yeem tsa curmudgeon, lossis rov qab, tus neeg tsis saib txhua yam, tsis faib txhua yam zoo thiab sab laug. Txhawm rau tiv nrog me nyuam kev ntshaw, koj yuav tsum nkag siab tias qhov no tshwm sim ntau zaus thaum niam txiv lawv tus kheej tsis nyiam qhia thiab qhia tus menyuam kom tsis txhob muab lawv cov khoom ua si rau leej twg. Thaum muaj peb xyoos, txoj cai tseem ceeb rau menyuam yog nws niam nws txiv. Cov menyuam uas lawv niam lawv txiv tsis hwm lawv qhov chaw ntiag tug yog cov neeg siab hlob. Koj tuaj yeem ntaus tus menyuam txoj kev khav theeb nyuaj yog tias, yog tias nws tsis paub, muab nws cov khoom ua si rau tus neeg nyob ze ib tus menyuam tub. Yog tias leej niam tsis xav txog tus menyuam qhov kev xav, nws yuav tsum tiv thaiv nws tus kheej. Tus me nyuam yog li pib cog lus rau txhua yam khoom me, sim ua pov thawj nws txoj cai rau khoom ntiag tug.
Yog tias tus me nyuam muaj ntau cov khoom ua si thiab koj xav muab qee yam rau cov khoom siv ntau dua, ces nws zoo dua yog caw tus me nyuam mus ywj siab xaiv cov khoom ua si uas nws xav muab tam sim ntawd. Piav qhia rau koj tus menyuam tias qee cov menyuam tsis muaj khoom ua si txhua qhov thiab lawv yuav zoo siab yog tias lawv tau ib qho me me. Lossis koj tuaj yeem sau thiab nqa cov khoom ua si mus rau chaw tu menyuam ntsuag lossis chaw tu menyuam ntsuag, thiab mam li npaj ib tog me me. Tom qab ntawd tus menyuam yuav hnov qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov muab thiab yuav pom qhov txheej txheem no ua kev lom zem.
Yog tias qhov teeb meem tsis sib haum xeeb tshwm sim ntawm qhov chaw ua si, koj tsis tuaj yeem nqa cov khoom ua si deb ntawm koj tus menyuam thiab muab rau koj tus nrog sib ntaus. Rau tus me nyuam, koj ua raws li tus tiv thaiv, yog hais tias nyob hauv kev sib cav koj coj sab ntawm tus yeeb ncuab, ces nws yuav ntxhov siab heev. Piav rau koj tus menyuam tias nws muab tau lwm yam khoom ua si coj los thiab ces yuav muab qhov khoom ua si rov qab rau nws. Yog tias tus menyuam tseem tsis pom zoo, tsis txhob yuam. Yog tias qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb ntawm cov menyuam yaus dhau los ua kev sib ntaus, koj yuav tsum muab qhov kev xav ntawm ob qho tib si tam sim ntawd: muab ua lwm yam, piv txwv, caij viav vias. Yuav tsum nyob rau ntawm koj tus menyuam ib txwm, txawm hais tias koj yuav tsum ntsib qhov kev tsis zoo ntawm lwm tus niam.
Nco ntsoov piav qhia rau koj tus menyuam kom coj zoo, thiab kev coj zoo yuav tsis muaj nqes dabtsi. Nws yog qhov yuav luag tsis tau qhia tus menyuam kom qhia cov khoom ua si nws nyiam, vim tias txawm tias koj muaj qee yam uas koj tsis xav muab rau lwm tus. Tsis tas yuav cem me nyuam yaus rau qhov nws siab hlob, nws yog qhov zoo uas yuav coj lub siab dawb siab zoo hauv nws. Muab rau tshwj xeeb yuav cov khoom qab zib los kho cov phooj ywg, nyeem cov phau ntawv zoo txog kev faib tsiaj nrog txhua tus, thiab tau txais ob npaug ntxiv. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum qhia rau tus me nyuam tias koj yuav tsum fwm lwm tus neeg tej khoom.
Yog tias koj muab nws txoj kev paub tseeb ntawm nws tus kheej thiab lwm tus neeg cov cuab yeej, ces qhov no yuav pab tus me nyuam qhia nws tus kheej kom muaj kev nkag siab txog nyiaj txiag thiab yam khoom. Kev cuaj khaum me me yog qhov muaj nyob hauv txhua tus neeg, yog li nws yog qhov tseem ceeb hauv menyuam yaus kom sib npaug sib luag ntawm ob lub tswv yim no.
