Nco ntsoov li cas cov neeg laus cais kev sib cav thiab sib ntaus me nyuam? Lawv hais tias "Tus uas thim kev sib cav thawj zaug yog tus uas ntse dua." Thiab feem ntau nws ua haujlwm - qhov kev sib cav sib ceg. Tej zaum, hauv koj tus txiv, koj yuav tsum yog tus ua ntej tso tseg txoj kev sib cav txog leej twg yog tus tsim nyog thiab leej twg tsis yog? Yog tias, txawm li cas los xij, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau koj los ua pov thawj koj kis, tom qab ntawd ua raws cov lus qhia hauv qab no.
Cov Lus Qhia
Kauj ruam 1
Ua ntej koj yuav tsum siab nqig (tsawg kawg rau ib pliag, yog tias koj tseem tsis tuaj yeem siab nqig tag nrho). Qhov no tuaj yeem pab tau, piv txwv li, los ntawm kev tu tsev (ntxhua khaub ncaws, tais diav, da dej). Kev tawm dag zog hauv lub cev pab ua kom siab nqig, muab qhov tawv muag thiab nro ua haujlwm. Thiab kev sib tham yuav tsuas yog ua tau khoom thaum lub interlocutors tau zoo.
Kauj ruam 2
Tso koj tus kheej rau nkawm khau ntawm lwm tus neeg, tshwj xeeb yog thaum muaj kev nyuaj (thaum muaj kev sib cav, piv txwv), yog qhov nyuaj, koj tsis xav tau. Thiab txoj kev yooj yim tshaj plaws yog tshem tawm cov lus: “Zoo, nws txoj haujlwm yog qhov tseeb! Tsuas yog nws tsis ncaj ncees lawm! Ntawm no kuv qhia qhov tseeb! Tab sis qhov kev txiav txim siab tuaj yeem ua txhaum thaum qhov xwm txheej tsuas yog saib ntawm ib sab nkaus xwb. Yog li ntawd, saib qhov xwm txheej dhau los ntawm lub qhov muag ntawm koj tus txiv, thiab txhawb kom nws los soj ntsuam qhov tshwm sim ntawm koj sab.
Kauj ruam 3
Sim tsis txhob ua pov thawj rau koj tus txiv tsis ncaj ncees lawm, tab sis kom txhob muaj kev sib ceg. Tsis muaj teeb meem ntau npaum li cas koj hlub, koj tsis tau ib txwm thiab txhua yam pom zoo nrog tus uas koj hlub. Tab sis qhov no tseem tsis tau yog ib qho laj thawj ntawm kev sib nrauj. Tab sis yog tias koj tsis paub yuav ua li cas los txiav txim siab ((nws tau hloov dua siab tshiab thiab nws tsis xa rov qab)), kom muaj kev sib tham thiab kom lees ua ib yam dab tsi (txawm tias yog yam me me), ces nws yog qhov zoo dua los nyob ywj pheej.
Kauj ruam 4
Yog tias koj tsis pom zoo nrog cov neeg koj hlub, tab sis tseem xav nrhiav ib hom lus nrog lawv, ua ntej tau tshem ntawm cov lus "pom tseeb", "ntuj", "tsis ntseeg", "yeej", "nws mus yam tsis tau hais" - tag nrho cov no yog pom tseeb, undoubtedly yeej thiab mus yam tsis tau hais rau cov neeg uas pom zoo nrog koj. Cov uas tsis pom zoo tsuas yog npau taws rau cov uas tsis pom zoo. Hloov cov ntawv categorical "Koj ua txhaum!" rau cov mos, tab sis tib yam hauv cov ntsiab lus: "Nws zoo nkaus li kuv …" lossis "Kuv xav txawv!"
Kauj ruam 5
Cia li lees qhov uas tej zaum koj ua tsis yog lawm, tab sis nug kom muaj kev sib tham. Tsuas hais: "Tej zaum kuv tsis ncaj ncees lawm (a), tab sis cia peb sib tham nws, peb yuav sab laj …"
Kauj Ruam 6
Zam kev monologue: ob qho tib si yog hais tias koj tau hais qhia, thiab yog tias koj tab tom tham. Cov lus sib tham khaws cia cov xim ntawm tus interlocutor, tso cai rau koj pom tias los ntawm qhov koj hais, tseem tsis nkag siab, thiab cov lus xaus uas tau ua thaum lub sijhawm sib tham tsis raug yuam, lawv yog ib qho kev pom.
