Cov neeg maj nyiam nyiam nyiam qhov zoo ntawm lwm tus sib deev. Tsis tham lus, tsis yog kev xav "hauv pej xeem", lawv zoo li tsis muaj leej twg paub thiab tag nrho ntawm cov nom tswv uas tsis muaj peev xwm, tsis muaj kev sib raug zoo thiab xis nyob hauv kev sib raug zoo. Tab sis yog nws?
Yog tias txoj hmoo tau coj koj mus rau ib qho kev qhia, qhov no yog qhov kev vam meej rau cov neeg npau suav ntawm txawm tias, kev sib raug zoo, tsis txhob muab qhov tseem ceeb rau kev ua haujlwm sib raug zoo thiab txhua yam txuas nrog nws. Tab sis txhawm rau kom cov kev sib raug zoo ntxiv kom ruaj khov thiab tsis txhob poob siab, koj yuav tsum kawm kom nkag siab txog cov neeg hloov thiab tsis txhob ua ib yam dab tsi uas tuaj yeem cuam tshuam thiab thab cov kev sib raug zoo. Txwv tsis pub, koj khiav txoj kev pheej hmoo ntawm kev poob rau hauv qhov xwm txheej ntawm "kev poob siab kev cia siab."
Txoj kev hlub ntawm ib tug introvert yog nqi ntau. Cov neeg ntawm hom no nkag mus rau hauv kev sib raug zoo, raws li txoj cai, tau ntev, tsis txhob sib zog lawv lub zog tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib dag thiab kev sib txuas "ntawm sab". Hauv kev tsis sib haum xeeb, cov lus qhuab qhia tsis tawm tsam qhov hluav taws kub ntawm kev ua yeeb ncuab, thiab lawv tus kheej tsis pub lwm tus tham txog lawv tus khub tom qab lawv nraub qaum, thiab tseem ntau dua - lawv tsis muab "kev ntsuam xyuas tsis zoo" rau lawv cov koom tes hauv kev sib tham sib tham nrog tus neeg tsis paub.
Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau cov introverts kom muaj qhov chaw zoo thiab nyab xeeb. Lawv yog cov uas ntsiag to thiab nyiam nyob ntsiag to. Lawv qhov kev ntsiag to tsis cuam tshuam nrog kev tsis txaus siab lossis qhov tsis nyiam, lawv txaus siab rau lub tuam txhab ntawm tus neeg hlub, tsis hais kev sib txuas lus. Nws yog qhov txaus rau lawv kom paub tias lawv tus hlub ntxim nyiam yog nyob ze, thiab lawv tau nkees tham. Yog li no, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob "thauj" lawv nrog cov lus tsis muaj qab hau, kev hais lus tsis zoo thiab kev hlub lees, suav cov kev coj ua, "kev sib koom tes sib hlub" tsis yog lawv qhov.
Rau cov neeg zoo li no, cov chaw pej xeem yog lub nra hnyav, lawv tau ntsib kev nyuaj siab ntxhov plawv hauv cov chaw pej xeem uas muaj qhov xav tau hu rau cov neeg tsis tau paub dua. Tus neeg hlub nthuav tawm tuaj yeem "nkag" tawm ntawm nws qhov "khauj khaum" kom nws thiaj li tau tuaj ntsib koj lossis koom nrog koj ntawm cov rooj tog neeg. Tab sis yog tias koj xav tias zoo li ntses nyob hauv dej ntawm cov xwm txheej zoo li no, introverts tau nkees ntawm nws. Tom qab muaj kev lom zem tog, tus neeg hloov siab xav tau qee qhov kev ceev ntiag tug kom rov qab tau qhov seem thiab lub zog hauv qhov ntsiag to. Kev sib tham ntawm cov neeg paub tshiab lossis kev muaj lub siab xav qhia lwm yam kev pom zoo thaum lub sijhawm zoo dua yog ncua rau tom qab thiab txo qis mus rau qhov tsawg.
Rau lub neej zoo nrog tus neeg hloov dua siab tshiab, tus cwj pwm ntawm kev mloog tus mloog lus thiab mloog nws cov lus tuaj yeem muaj txiaj ntsig zoo. Tus neeg pib kawm yuav ua siab ntev mloog, tab sis kuj yuav txaj muag yog tias nws cov lus tsis hnov. Sim tsis txhob cuam tshuam cov neeg pib, thiab tsis txhob hnov qab tias kev sib tham yog kev sib tham, tsis yog koj monologue.
Nyob nrog ib sab nrog tus neeg hloov pauv yuav tsum kawm paub qhia ntaub ntawv kom raug. Cov neeg zoo li no tau nkees ntawm chatter, ntau qhov ua yeeb yam thiab lub siab. Thaum rov qhia txog lwm tus neeg cov lus sib tham, sim piav qhia qhov tseem ceeb, tsis txhob qog lwm tus ua kom nkag siab - qhov no yuav ua rau lwm tus neeg ua tsis zoo. Thaum qhia qee yam rau kev pib qhia, nws yog qhov zoo dua kom tsis txhob pom cov ntsiab lus me me, tsom mus rau qhov tseem ceeb thiab qhov loj.
Cov lus qhuab qhia tsis nyiam kev sib cav, kev thuam, kev tawm tsam uas nquag dhau, thiab feem ntau muaj kev sib cav sib ceg. Ib qho kev sib tham nrog kev qhia paub tuaj yeem yog qhov kev zoo siab tiag tiag thaum hloov mus rau qhov kev sib tham zoo. Thiab kev sib cav hais txog cov suab lus tawm los yog cov lus tseem ceeb txog nws cov lus, cov tswv yim thiab kev ua yuav ua rau nws qaug zog, tsis txaus siab lossis laj. Nyob rau hauv cov xwm txheej zoo li no, introverts feem ntau "thim mus rau lawv tus kheej" sim rau psychologically cais tawm lawv tus kheej los ntawm interlocutor. Yog tias cov xwm txheej no nquag, kev tsis sib cais thiab txias yuav tshwm sim hauv kev sib raug zoo.
Ua tib zoo nrog koj cov lus. Tus introvert yog yooj yim poob plig los ntawm rudeness. Qhov ua tau txaus siab ua rau nws tsis yooj yim. Tej zaum nws yuav tsis ua kom pom nws, tab sis nws yuav txhawj xeeb yam tsis pub leej twg paub. Cov lus cem tau nco los ntawm cov neeg zoo li no tau ntev, thiab yog tias muaj xwm txheej hauv kev sib txuas lus dua, koj yuav raug "hla dhau" ntawm kev sib raug zoo, nws yuav tsuas thim thiab nws yuav nyuaj thiab suav ntau dua rau nws lub siab dawb paug. Ua tsaug rau kev qhib siab ntawm cov neeg zoo li no, vim tias lawv tsis qhib rau txhua tus.
Ironically, introverts feem ntau poob rau hauv kev hlub nrog extroverts. Lawv muaj peev xwm qhuas koj thaum koj tig ntawm qhov ntxim nyiam "mus rau qhov zoo tshaj plaws", tab sis lawv xav tias tsis zoo siab yog tias lawv pom tias lawv tus khub pib "tawm" nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm neeg txawv nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav thov sawv daws indiscriminately.
Lub ntiaj teb sab hauv ntawm ib lub introvert yog nplua nuj thiab pom tsis tau rau lwm tus. Yog tias koj dhau los ua nws lub ntiaj teb sab hauv, koj tuaj yeem paub tseeb tias tsis muaj lwm tus yuav los hloov koj qhov chaw ntawd. Tab sis yuam kev quab yuam ntawm nws tus kheej qhov chaw tsis tsim nyog, nws yuav tsis lees txais diktat, tswj hwm thiab tsis saib xyuas tus cwj pwm rau nws tus kheej, kev coj ua thiab sijhawm.
Introverts muaj qhov zoo siab ntawm kev lom zem, uas tau qhia tawm hauv lub voj voog ntawm cov neeg hlub. Tus neeg pib yuav tsis "sparkle" nrog witticism nyob rau hauv lub xub ntiag ntawm tus neeg sab nraud, thiab tus neeg qhia yuav tsis nkag siab thiab yuav tsis zam txim ib qho tsis txaus luag lossis luag thuam, raug thuam rau lwm tus, thiab tseem ntau dua - hauv koj qhov chaw nyob lossis koj qhov chaw nyob. Ntxiv mus, cov neeg zoo li no feem ntau muaj rancor. Thiab tsis txhob xav tsis thoob yog tias nws tom qab ntawd rov xa cov tshuaj "hairpins" lom rau nws qhov chaw nyob - dag, ntse thiab tua neeg, nrog kev pab los ntawm cov lus zoo xaiv.
Nyob rau hauv qhov chaw ntawm kev sib raug zoo, cov introverts tsis txawv los ntawm kev txaj muag, lawv tsis nyiam rudeness ntau heev thiab swagger, tab sis lawv paub kev lom zem tsis zoo nkauj. Tsis tham lus, nws nyiam ntau dua qhov kev ua si ntawm kov, tactile hnov, lawv tsis muaj kev ntxhov siab thiab ntau zaus xav txog lawv tus khub tshaj txog lawv tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, tsis txhob ntshai los nthuav tawm kev ris txiaj rau lub sijhawm tseem ceeb ntawm kev ua phooj ywg thiab qhia koj cov kev zais cia rau tus neeg pib. Kev ntseeg siab yuav them tawm, tshwj xeeb yog cov teeb meem zoo li kev sib txuas lus zoo nkauj.
Rau cov lus tshaj tawm, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas tus neeg hlub muaj kev zoo siab, txwv tsis pub lawv xav tias nyob tsis tswm thiab yuav poob ntsej muag. Paub tias ib tus neeg hlub zoo siab nyob ib sab ntawm lawv yog kev ntseeg siab rau cov neeg no kom ntseeg tias lawv tau hlub thiab kev sib raug zoo muaj zog heev. Yog tias koj mob khaub thuas lossis ua rau “tsis txaus siab lub ntsej muag” thaum sim ua kev puas siab puas ntsws los yog zuaj ib yam dab tsi, koj yuav ua rau nws txom nyem. Tab sis introverts yog sib haum xeeb los ntawm cov xwm, thiab nyob rau qee lub sij hawm koj khiav txoj kev pheej hmoo ntawm bumping mus rau sab ntsuj plig armor ntawm kev tsis saib xyuas. Thiab tom qab ntawd tus neeg qhia tsis tuaj yeem kov yeej txoj kev quaj los kua muag. Sim tiv thaiv koj tus kheej los ntawm kev tawm tsam lossis cuam tshuam txog kev quab yuam (thiab kev ua yam tsis zoo yog kev coj ua phem), koj tus khub yuav “mus rau hauv qab” thiab tsis teb koj cov teeb meem thiab cem. Qhov no tsis txhais tau tias nws yuav tsis xav ua txhaum ntawm koj "lub neej piam." Nws tsuas yog tias tus neeg taw qhia muaj qhov qis qis rau qhov mob, thiab kuaj nws lub siab ntev ua li no tsis zoo rau kev sib raug zoo. Cov neeg zoo li no tau mob ntev, khaws cov kev xav "khib nyiab" sab hauv, uas muab pov rau hauv lawv los ntawm cov neeg hlub. Tab sis yog tias qhov kev npau taws tshwm sim, nws yuav nyuaj heev, thiab qee zaum ua tsis tau, rov qab mus rau qhov qub kev ntseeg siab thiab kev sib raug zoo yooj yim.
Tus qhia yuav tsis rhuav kev sib raug zoo nws tus kheej. Txhua yam uas tau rhuav tshem lawv yuav raug ua los ntawm koj txhais tes, nrog lus, ntawm koj li kev pib. Introverts tsis tshua muaj qhov tseeb mus rau kev sib tawg. Yog tias qhov xwm txheej nyob hauv tsev tsis tuaj yeem, lawv tsuas kaw lawv tus kheej kom nruj, qee zaum lawv pom kev sib txuas “ntawm sab”, tab sis lawv tsis tau tshaj tawm nws. Tab sis yog tias cov khub zoo li no txiav txim siab tawm mus, ces qhov no, raws li txoj cai, yog nyob mus ib txhis. Ua tsaug rau koj txoj kev zoo siab.
